How do I fix a bad mistake like I made with my wife?  I started with what I hope came across as a very, very sincere apology.

I thought about it all day.  I was surprised, and think maybe her family and perhaps Germany doesn't take this sort of news well.  In fact, it's a hot button.  Crying at funerals is expected, and the deceased doesn't know either way, so why announce you don't dry.

I am dumb!